Every parent wants their child to be happy, respectful, respected by others, and able to find their place in the world as well-behaved adults. Nobody wants to be accused of raising a spoiled brat.
Setting limits is an important part of parenting. Limits keep our children safe and healthy and socialize them so that they can function in society and become healthy adults. Providing structure and limits will teach children how to set limits for themselves, otherwise known as self discipline.
Studies show that permissive parents tend to produce children with very low self-esteem and feelings of inferiority. Though the parents express a lot of love, the lack of boundaries leaves their children with a high level of insecurity. Their kids feel loved, but they are never sure of their limits.
Some parents are concerned that setting limits will not allow their children freedom and creative growth. Setting limits and boundaries is not about stymieing the child from using their creative brain.
Setting limits at home are the first rules and limitations children learn. As adults we are all required to follow the law and abide by moral and ethical standards. When kids learn limitations and have structure at home, they are able to follow societal rules as adults. Childhood is a practice run of following the rules and regulations of adulthood.
Don’t be afraid to set boundaries, rules and regulations. By doing this, you are essentially teaching your children how to be adults. If you didn’t learn how to set boundaries or have limitations when you were growing up, it can be difficult to know how to implement them with your own kids. Parenting classes are a great learning experience and provide you with the knowledge you need to start teaching your kids. A good parenting class will teach you how to implement the boundaries, how to know when they are too strict or too lenient. Parenting classes will also provide you with knowledge on different parenting styles including passive, authoritative, and authoritarian. There are many challenges in parenting your children. Reach out for new and different learning experiences. When you learn and grow… so do your children.